Breakups are hard. You discover first hand that most of the cliches
from books and well meaning friends and family members don’t work for
you. You realize that you’re not as strong as you thought you were (or
that you’re actually stronger than you gave yourself credit for). Some
days you want to go back to the way things were (but you broke up for a
reason)…other days, you may find yourself thinking of doing…or actually
doing (any of) these 10 things you should completely avoid:
Blow up his phone with several calls and texts per day. This is kind of like stalking, so, if he isn’t calling you back, hang up the phone. Also, you have better things to do!
Eat your feelings. Yes, Chinese food would go great with the four hours of Netflix you plan to watch tonight, but making this an every night thing is not healthy. Plus, it won’t make you feel better—just bloated.
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Drink your feelings. Chances are you girlfriends
will want to take you out for cocktails to vent, chat, and celebrate
your singledom. One happy hour is fine, but not a week of
tequila-induced sloppy nights. You’ll just feel worse once you sober up.
Plus, a broken heart and a hangover don’t mix well.
Sleep with the next guy who buys you a drink. Random
hookups are always a little risky, but when you’re hot on the heels of a
breakup, you’re even more likely to wake up feeling worse. Plus, who is
this guy? You are way too hot for him! At least wait it out a little!
Reconnect with other exes. Girl, you aren’t with
them for a reason. Remember that time he flaked on your grandma’s
funeral? Not cool. It’s natural to be craving something comfortable and
reassuring right now, but it’s also pretty selfish to turn to an ex for
that if you’re not really interested in getting back together.
Obsess over his new girlfriend. It’s not her fault
(well, probably not). Plus, one of the best ways to get over a split the
healthy way is to take some responsibility for whatever part you played
in the breakup—not blame it on that new chick who keeps popping up in
his profile pictures.
Take it public. It’s one thing to vent to your
buddies, but publicly ranting isn’t cute, not even online. And grandiose
public pleas can be just as risky- take it from Robin Thicke’s recent
breakup saga.
Jump into another relationship right away. Everyone
copes in different ways, but give yourself a little time to heal. While
research shows that rebound relationships aren’t always doomed, it’s
important to recognize if you’ve fully moved on first. After all, you
wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone who’s still hung up
on their ex, would you?
Try to get back at him. Do not, we repeat, do not
go key his car or tell his boss he’s embezzling. It’s not worth it and
revenge is not a good look on you—unless you’re Emily Thorne and you
have your own TV show.
Forget to take some time for yourself. Staying busy
with tons of plans can be great, but remember to give yourself some time
to heal and process the breakup. After all, you’re pretty
fantastic—with or without a partner—and now is the time to think of what
you want.
Let us know other things to never do, you think was missed. Thank you!
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