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Sunday 22 July 2012

7 Common Mistakes Women Make When They Are In Love


Mistake 1: Seeing men as misbehaving women.

Women take everything personally, when a man doesn’t do what women want, women think men doesn’t love them, care about them or respect them.

“Otherwise men wouldn’t be misbehaving.”

But men are more forgiving than women. “Men allow for mystery with women and find it fascinating.

Mistake 2: Reading into his words.

Take men literally. If a man says he’s busy Saturday night, it means he’s busy. “It doesn’t mean he’s tired of you, bored of you or wants to break up with you.”


 


Mistake 3: Expecting his time to be yours.

When a man becomes your boyfriend, you expect him to sync up with your daily planner.

The problem?

“He doesn’t see it that way. Men have whole lives. Men don’t consider they owe you all their time,” married or not, she says.

Men owe you their best effort to make you happy, and to love and respect you, but expecting him to cater for you makes you appear “domineering, disrespectful and disempowering.”

Mistake 4: Interrupting a Man when he’s speaking.

You’ve asked your man an important question. He starts to answer and you butt in.

“That’s how women mistakenly end up thinking men are shallow.

When interrupted, a man will just stop talking.

Instead, listen to what he says. When he’s finished, listen some more. That’s when the best nuggets often emerge.

Mistake 5: Thinking a man can multitask.
 
Women are biologically designed to multitask, “Women watch TV and cook at the same; Women drive and be on the phone at the same time.”

Men don’t. Why? Because we are like hunters, we  have to be single-focused to keep their eye on the target.

Mistake 6: Believing a man is ignoring you.

Women probably have  accused their guy of ignoring them while he’s driving or watching TV. He really isn’t. He just can’t do two things at once.

If he’s watching TV or dressing, “He’s just watching TV, just getting dressed, “We think he’s doing something and ignoring you because you can do that.”

No wonder most women feel abandoned!

“Women keep their attention on [men], and a woman feel upset when their attention is not on her,”
 
So next time your man’s ”hunter” kicks in – and you’re feeling disconnected – take a deep breath and remember: He’s wired differently; it’s not personal.

Mistake 7: Competing with a man’s mission.

“All man’s energy is going into that he’s sure is going to provide for his family,

Don’t fall into the trap of thinking he’d make more time for you if he cared more. It’s not about you. And forcing him to pay attention “will be excruciating for him.

But relationships are not a one-way street. Men need to understand women too.

It’s healing for both sexes.


“Women sit in the course with tears running down their faces when they find out they’re not alone,”

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